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How to save a marriage

2015 February 17
by The Marriage Coach

saving a marriage

While there are no magical formulas there are certain steps that you can take that will lead you in the right direction.

The first step in mending a broken marriage is getting God involved & looking at the relationship through a spiritual lens.  There may be communication problems, infidelity, or destructive habits present but many times the real problem is that God has been edged out of the relationship. 

It can happen. We stand before God’s altar & vow to keep Him in the center of our marriages but sometimes He gets left out or pushed to the sidelines.   This will help save your marriage.

So instead of just focusing on the symptoms or blaming each other or someone else, step back & ask “What place have we given God in our marriage?”  Start there.  Ask the hard questions about the spiritual health of your marriage then you’ll be ready to tackle the other issues that you’re facing.

Beyond that, here are a few other steps you can take to immediately to help save a marriage:

Steps you can take:

1)  Commit to open & honest communication. Always try to begin with statements about what you love about your spouse before you share your concerns.  Let him/her know how you feel but steer clear of jabs, name calling, and flinging comments only to inflict pain and hurt.


2)  Be intentional.  Don’t just hope that things will get better.  Think about the steps you can take, then develop a plan to improve things and follow  it.

This will also will help save a marriage.

3)  Focus on making things better each day. Know that it will take time to restore and strengthen your marriage but you can turn things around.  Don’t expect things to be perfect tomorrow but work toward small improvements each day.  Small but steady steps will get take you to a better place.


4)  Get the resources that you need.  Take a few moments to take thMyMarriageCoach quiz.  Iwill reveal the strengths & ‘weak spots’ in your marriage, generate your marriage score & help you get your hands on the resources that you need.  


5)  Don’t go it alone.  Turn to counselors, pastors, & good friends for help.  Decide who you can trust & then go together to talk through the issues, share your feelings, identify what needs to change and what steps you can take then work together to save your marriage.  This will help save a marriage.

You and your spouse may be in a difficult place right now but know that things can change. Remember that your relationship is worth fighting for.  With a clear plan, open communication, and work daily, it can get better. 

All of these ideas will help you save a marriage.


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