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The Pressure of Valentine’s Day

2015 January 30
by The Marriage Coach

So have you felt the pressure of Valentines yet?  Every guy reading this knows exactly what I’m talking about.  It typically starts around the beginning of February or maybe even earlier.  The perfect Valentine’s Day Gift

You see, that’s when you notice that the cards and candy have hit the stores.  So immediately you start thinking about what to get your wife.  Flowers?  Nope, every guy does that.  Candy?  I don’t think so.

And so the question stays with you for several weeks.  How can I let my wife know how much I love and appreciate her?  One thing’s for sure, whatever it is, it has to be better than last year.  That’s just how it works and therein lies the problem…and the pressure. The perfect Valentine’s Day Gift

Valentine’s can begin to feel forced and well, you can say lots of things about love but one thing’s for sure, it shouldn’t be forced.  And I can tell you, considering all that my wife puts up with from me, expressing my love to her with flowers or chocolate one day a year just doesn’t cut it.  She deserves more.  (Yes, you guessed it, this is the part where I suck up to my wife for saying that I don’t like Valentine’s Day!)

What I’m trying to say is that I hope and pray that I express my love to my wife every day and not just on those ‘Hallmark Holidays’ when I’m ‘supposed’ to express it.  Our spouses need to know that we still believe in them…everyday.  They need to know that we’d marry them all over again and that there are thousands of things that we love about them…everyday.  The perfect Valentine’s Day Gift

So if you want to give your spouse an incredible Valentine’s gift, give them that.  Sure, go to dinner on the 14th, shower them with flowers and chocolate if that’s what they like but also recommit yourself to expressing your love to them on the other 364 days of the year.  Use post it notes, texts, cards…whatever it takes.  The perfect Valentine’s Day Gift

If all else fails, try telling them what you love and appreciate about them…everyday.  Then they’ll know you’re not just saying it on the one day that you’re supposed to.  The perfect Valentine’s Day Gift


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